I have always been Myself. I have taken my own decisions in my life. My parents have given me that liberty. But there are many who don’t have that. It is very difficult to be oneself in our country. I am here talking about the simple to complex decisions of life. There’s a lot of “bindings” to the society. People are living by these restrictions even without realising them. They are not even given a chance to “voice their opinions” in many a situations.
Its really sad. More than sad. Its actually pathetic.
Like, the students are not allowed to choose their career. The career path is chosen by their parents. Most of the time they think that a certain career path is good because the society approves of it. Engineering or Medicine aren’t the only paths which are good. People shine in every walks of life. If the kid needs to study literature let him/her study it. Maybe one day he may become a great writer. Remember J.K.Rowling became a millionaire because of her books not because she had a degree in engineering or medicine. Studies is not everything. There’s sports, arts , crafts,innovation etc. Let them chase their dreams, they may become a Tendulkar or M.F.Hussain or Mozart or Larry Page some day.
Of course, I not saying anything wrong about parents’ intentions. They think they are making it easier for their kids. But they don’t realise that the kids need to make their own decisions even if they are not the most sought out career path. There’s a greater probability they will shine in their chosen path. Even if they are not successful in their chosen career, its their life, they learn to take responsibility for their actions and “learn from their mistakes”.
Similar is the matter of selecting the spouses. Why cant it be just simple? Why does it have to be so complicated? Why can’t the parents just trust in their son/daughter’s decisions? Why does the society has to approve? Two people like each other. They think they are compatible and can co-exsist. Isn’t that reason enough. Why do the parents feel the need to check the religion and caste? People have to change their perspective of their thinking.
The important thing is not where people are born rather it is where they are now in their lives.
Hey that sounds good. I just made that up. Okay I guess enough of rambling for one night.
Ciao
Merilyn- a Chennai gal 